You know, it’s good to enjoy great conversations with people that you know and who know you well. In these environments, we feel free to open up and talk about really intimate matters without judgment. We know that we are in the midst of persons who can keep our information confidential. You didn’t get here overnight, but over time you learned to let down your guards.
However, with new relationships, you just can’t do that. Posting all your must-haves and wishlists on Facebook is a good way to encounter predators. Dating sites are not much better as we tend to say more than we should in hopes that it will draw potential suitors into our world.
I’m not really sure why people have this overwhelming desire to spread their whole lives out on the table after one or two encounters with total strangers. It’s unattractive, screams of insecurity, and is downright dangerous. You’ve got to be a little mysterious and extremely cautious in these times. You have no guarantees that you and these persons will become friends. So, let today be the first day of the rest of your life whereby you withhold more information about yourself than you share with new people at least for a season.
There will always be fools and social butterflies who consider themselves gifts to the universe with all their openness. On the contrary, your loose lips could be your Achilles heel. Friendships must develop slowly and with caution because not everyone you meet can possibly be your friend.
In closing, learn to shut your mouth and become a better listener. It may help you scratch some of your contenders off the list sooner than later, and that’s a positive.