Their Problem, Someone Else’s Answer

Sometimes you find yourself in a relationship where you only present problems for your mate. They can never seem to find the good in you as often as they do the negatives. You may find methods and ways of coping with the behavior just because you are really into the person probably more than they are into you. Nobody said life is fair, but in today’s world we often continue in the most toxic relationships just to keep from being alone.

But, as life would have it, one day you have your wake up call. You’ve had just about enough of being told that you’re too this or too that and you really don’t want to hear anymore. So, you do what was inevitably going to happen – you prepare to split. While you wish things could have worked out differently, you understand that time waits for no one. You really do have to navigate your ship in a direction where there are rewards more often than penalties. Now, that you are finally hearing what your mate has been trying to say, let them hear what you have to say.

As you prepare to part company with this person who really didn’t value what you bought to this relationship, provide your closure speech and share from your heart as honestly as you can. “Thanks for the time we’ve had together. Even though you seemed to have been challenged by my existence, I hope that it wasn’t all bad for you. However, your words and actions have conveyed that I am your problem, not your answer to what is good and wonderful between two people. Perchance, I can be the answer for someone else. Thanks for opening my eyes and I’ll never forget you. I promise” Once they pick their jaws up off the floor, give them a hug and move on to someone who has been looking for a person just like you.

Before you get all mated up again, though, take some time to be introspective about what just occurred. Why were you with this person that long under those conditions? Are you afraid to wait on someone more compatible and who wants to be in your company? What will you do to change your trajectory? You don’t need to make such a major move unless you are really planning to capitalize on the decision.

If this situation resonates with you, keep in mind that time is moving like never before. You really don’t have time to camp out where you are more of a problem than an answer to love.



3 thoughts on “Their Problem, Someone Else’s Answer

  1. Amen to that! Time waits for NO one. Why waste your time going to bed and waking up in a state of worthlessness, discontentment, and/or “just existing” when you can leave to go GET HAPPY? Of course I realize this is easier said than done. In most circumstances there are outside influencers: family members, youngsters, friends, church expectations, finances, the list goes on. And then of course trying to find what truly makes you happy can be uncertain, frustrating, and scary BUT at least its done on your own terms. I’m in my phase of “GET HAPPY!”
    Your post speaks TRUTH ALWAYS, thank you for sharing! 😃

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    1. Loyo08, it’s always good hearing from you on these posts. I only have one bone to pick with you. Finding what truly makes you happy should be priority number one. As much as we gravitate to friends and family, only you can determine your steps under the guidance of God who is always available to you. Happiness is a choice. You should find something that makes you smile every day including being alive. I wish you the very best on your journey. Also, send some of your friends my way. I’d like to hear different points of view on these topics. Again I appreciate your support and continued feedback.


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